That statement can be true,to say the least. Especially when analyzing situations about relationships, whether they are professional or personal.
A group of people cannot be given a definitive type of definition because there is an increase in aspecific type of correlation. Though, when we speak to others about their actions, that is when we look at how to approach them best.
We decide if the information we receive is something we need to investigate and read about. We start asking all the questions about that person’s integrity along with the people they spend most of their time with.
I am not saying that if someone in your group of friends does something wrong, you are guilty too. Though, if you approve of it and justifiably say they were in the right place to do what they did, your mentality can be grouped to be comparable to theirs.
You are not guilty by association unless you encourage and help with the said act the other person takes part in. If you should take part in that said action, you are just as guilty.
Now, you might be wondering why I am mentioning this. I will tell you.
After the last quarter and the start of this quarter,I feelhighly uncomfortable and uncertain about my education at the current school I am attending.
Before last quarter, I loved attending this college. Though, now, I am questioning if I even want to go there anymore. I am considering changing to a complete online school in another city because of how things are.
I wanted to see the overall rating of the school and all the teachers I have had over the quarters I have beenthere. As I said, correlation does not equal causation. Some of the teachers on here who have low scores I did very well in their classes, but the ones I struggled in, others have struggled too.
I did not look at this site when I signed up for this quarter; I feel I should have, then I would not have signed up for aparticular class that I ended up dropping only a couple of days into the quarter.
That was because just starting out, it was okay for reading needed, but reading the syllabus and reading so many lines about how if they feel you disrespect them inany way, they will suspend you even if you joke or are sarcastic. If they disagree with it, you will be punished. I would post it with everything highlighted, but I cannot.
I can hope you take my word for it, or you can directly ask me, and I will tell you which class, and you can ask them for their syllables.
From my understanding, people with the highest opinions are the ones who post their ratings on sites such as that one. Though, I did read quite a few average ones on there as well.
I have not posted on there,but I have been thinking about it; I just want to keep analyzing things first.
The reason is, I am not feeling happy with being at this school, and I do not want to post something based on emotions. Is that not the analytical way of doing things?
There are a lot of different scores for teachers and schools on there. Though I do question if the students themselves have been given a survey to answer these questions? What would happen if, bear with my thought here, if they were given the opportunity to do an anonymous survey after each quarter. To gauge if they are satisfied with the education they are receiving and paying for; Some of them are paying out of pocket, and that is the hard-earned income they saved up for, or their parents did.
Shouldn’t they be given the opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings after each quarter? How much more time would it take for a teacher or the school to send out those surveys. If not that, the students should be encouraged to rate their professors on that site, so there is a more current and exact rating.
To really stand behind the school’s mission statement,should not a school engage with the students and actively survey them on how their professors are performing during the school year?
Anyways, this is me analyzing things. I am not emotional or aggressive, but I am actively questioning things. Why might you ask?
Because I have not lived like you.
I have not lived in this reality or learned to cope with this reality like everyone else. Due to trauma as a child, I tend to disassociate when I experience intense emotional pain. Because of that, I constantly did that because I could not handle the emotional stress of this reality. I never learned to cope with it.
I am learning things now that I should have learned when I was younger. Does it surprise you to know that I barely know what it means to be in a professional environment? I never learned it. When I was in school as a child, I was always ignored and pushed to the side. When I had to read aloud, the teachers gave other students two paragraphs while I had a sentence. When asking for help, I was questioned and made to feel like I was a nuisance. I felt nothing but the same while at school.
I am learning now to ask questions. I am learning now that it is not wrong to ask a question and that it does not mean you are stupid for the asking. If someone makes you feel shame or insecure for asking, it is not a show of your intelligence but a show of their criticism and judgmental thoughts.
I am now becoming triggered emotionally from this when people refuse to answer my questions or avoid it. Again, I am just analyzing here, and this is not saying this is what they are doing. This is what goes through my mind?
This is my reality and how my mind process works.
When a question is avoided or ignored, it triggers me not to trust the person or people who justify those actions. That is because Iwas made to look like a fool as a child by my peers. I was always the joke and used to trick into thinking they liked me as a friend.
An Example:
One time these girls said their brother had a crush on me and wrote me a letter. Of course, I wrote back. After I gave it to them, I watched them in the back of the bus just laugh hysterically and make fun of me. I cannot tell you how much shame and embarrassment I felt.
That is just one instance of my being ridiculed as an adolescent. I have been lied to, manipulated, abused, and hurt emotionally. I am just now learning what it means to trust a person. When my mind tells me not to trust someone, I lash out. I will become cynical, sarcastic, and snide.
I am highlyaware of my shortcomings, and I do not have to be reminded of them. Iknow what it means to go along the I messed up train and theshame that comes with it. I am very aware of the judgments and those that decided I am no longer of value to their lives. These things are nothing new to me.
Now back to correlation does not equal causation.
I am learning to change that correlation of my life of the lashing out and those shortcomings to my personality. But I cannot do it alone.
I need support, as though there is no tomorrow. I need people to tell me when I mess up so I can change these things. I need that communication in my life because I never learned it. I am not asking people to put up with abuse from me. I am asking people to point out when I am in the wrong.
Though, that needs to go both ways as well. Those people need to be able to accept when they are being told something is not working. Yes, I have a mental disorder, but that does not mean I am stupid or do not know when something is not working.
I have a mental disorder, and because of that, I learn differently from other people. It is hard for me to understand concepts at times.
I was now looking at the site rate of my professor and looking at all the professors I had. Not all of them are negative, and not all of them are positive either. Though, reading what people say is very consistentwith some of the things I have felt and spoke about a few professors I have had in the past.
These reviews do not decide who is and is not a bad professor. These are just reviewing them, and some are not even current. I just wonder how many college students would be more apt to go on there if the schools they were in encouraged them to review their teachers on their so they could understand how the students feel about their teachers and the course they are taking.
Before I went to Spokane Community College I attended non-credit classes at the Spokane Falls Community College. It was a program for people who wanted to go back to school but had difficulty and anxiety with the process. The class was called Transition to College. I wrote a paper While in there along with an outline. I wanted to post that here.
Stephanie Morante Transition to College February 21, 2019
Introduction- The field of technical writing is a rapidly growing job market. a. The pay can very from $42,410 up to 113,810 b. Expected to growth 11% c. Thesis Statement – Technical writing is a rapidly growing job market. Faster than most job markets due to the rapid growth in the science and engineering fields. Technical writers have a very interesting job. To become one takes a certain amount of education.
Body- A technical writer has a very interesting job. a. Duties that are usually required of a technical writer. b. Work environment c. Job outlook
Body- It takes a good amount of education to become a technical writer. a. English, journalism, communication b. Computer science, Medicine, Engineering c. licenses, certificates
Body- There are other type of jobs you can have with this degree. a. Computer programmers. Median pay 82,240 b. Writer and author. Median pay 61,820 c. Interpreters and translators. Median pay 47,190
Conclusion- Given the information and statistics I believe this will be a beneficial education
Thesis Statement Technical writing is a rapidly growing job market. Faster than most job markets. To become one takes a certain education in either English, journalism, and communication. Also, have knowledge in the field of either engineering, medicine, and computer science.
Stephanie Morante Transition to College February 21, 2019
Technical writing
The job of technical writing is in a very desirable job market. The pay can very from $42,410 up to 113,810. Expected growth is 11% over the next 7 years. Technical writing is a rapidly growing job market, faster than most job outlooks due to the rapid growth in the science and engineering fields. Technical writers have a very interesting job and to become one takes a certain amount of education. Along with having certain responsibilities, there is also a lot of room for advancement. A technical writer has a very interesting job, they are also known as technical communicators. They usually prepare instruction manuals which are used by companies as well and the general population. Technical writers gather and investigate the information of products to determine if they’ll work out. They use photographs, drawings, diagrams, animation, and charts that help people in understanding the material. They speak to product designers and developers to ensure understanding of a product. Working in a team environment to ensure product is released on time. The work environment for a technical writer is usually in an office setting. They usually work for a company that specializes in technical communication. There are also some that work freelance. When they work freelance they are usually paid per project. Most work full time and are usually expected to work evenings and weekends to meet deadlines. Those who have advancement in the field usually work on more complex projects or teach those who just enter the field. Those who work in this field are expected to have a very detail oriented personality, So as to be able to break down information for others. They also need to be able to think very critically about projects. They must be able to take in complex information so as to simplify it. They need to have excellent writing skills to explain information clearly for colleagues and consumers. The job outlook for technical writers is rapidly growing due to science and medicine improvement throughout the years, there is a greater need for writers who can communicate the best and safest way to use the technology. As technology advances there is a greater need for instructions to be broken down. There is also a greater need for technical books that can communicate to younger generations. It takes a good amount of education to become a technical writer. Employers usually require a bachelor’s degree in English, journalism, or communication. A bachelor’s degree takes four years to attain. A school of interest that offers a bachelor’s degree in technical writing is Portland State University. This school resides in the Pacific Northwest of the United States. Though, most employers require knowledge in other fields which can result in additional education. When you study English, you most likely, are looking to become an English teacher. With technical writing you can write out those text books that can teach the children. Writing out the text books can also help the teachers to better organize lessons. The more organized they are the better they’ll be able to teach. It’s also involves writing articles in magazines, and writing the instructions for science projects. The additional education that is usually needed for technical writing is either engineering, medicine, or computer science. The American Medical Writers Association offers a certification in writing for the medical field. The certification is usually offered to professionals already in the medical and scientific field. They will develop the proper communication about medicine and health for the proper audience. There are other type of jobs you can have with this degree. Having this education and experience can help those attain a job as a computer programmer, translator, author, and editor. Having a English degree can help those to teach English as a foreign language. Some study English and journalism to become an author or an editor. Having knowledge in computer science will allow those to work as a computer programmer,who create and developing applications and software for computers. Given the information I believe this will be a beneficial educational choice and job. With this job market rapidly increasing I believe there will be enough demand for a stable and successful job.
Work Citated
“Summary.” U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, 13 Apr. 2018,
www.bls.gov/ooh/media-and-communication/technical-writers.htm#tab-1.
AMWA Journal - American Medical Writers Association, www.amwa.org/page/Med_Communication.
“Master's in Technical and Professional Writing.” Portland State University,
www.pdx.edu/english/masters-in-technical-and-professional-writing
I only did one essay in this class, I did other writing but they were assessments and I did them with other people. I’m not sure about posting those so I’m leaving it at this. This essay is an assessment on my emotional intelligence (EQ). It was a very interesting and a different perspective on how I am emotionally.
Stephanie Morante
Communications 210
24 October 2020
Emotional Intelligence Analysis
When people hear the word intelligence, they automatically think of their I.Q. Most people wouldn’t put intelligence with emotions, but here we are. Many people fail to realize that without understanding emotions not only of yourself but those around you, it can ultimately affect your interpersonal relationships throughout your life. Being able to understand and identify emotions can help you to communicate appropriately in specific settings. The five categories for emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. To not be able to do all of these things to yourself or those around you is to have low emotional intelligence. It takes a great deal of being mindful of your and others’ feelings to recognize those five areas of emotional intelligence. Most don’t realize that their thoughts and confidence in things can affect their emotions. People will ruminate about things that have happened in their life, and they’ll dwell on it. They won’t realize how much it affects their emotions to ruminate about things that have since continuously passed. It can affect our confidence in our work and the conversations we hold in our everyday lives. I have never been the most aware of my emotions and those around me due to having Borderline Personality Disorder (B.P.D.); after assessing my emotional intelligence, it was higher than I expected at forty, though, could use work.
The first thing to work on is my self-awareness, which I have struggled with for a long time. It wasn’t until the past three years that I became more aware of myself and my emotions. I was put in Intensive Out-Patient Dialectical Behavior Therapy (I.O.P. D.B.T.), and that’s when I realized I wasn’t aware of my feelings. That my emotions were very much out of control in my everyday life and made it challenging to live today, I was disassociating several times a day. So I wasn’t even in there mentally to take control of my emotions, through D.B.T. I learned about mindfulness to stay in the present moment and be aware of my surroundings and my feelings. Mindfulness is also encouraged in increasing self-awareness for emotional intelligence. It may seem like an obvious thing to do, to be mindful of your surroundings, but mostly to be aware of your emotions. Without being cognizant of feelings, a person can lose control of those emotions very quickly. That’s why in D.B.T. the first thing people are taught is mindfulness because those with B.P.D. have difficulty regulating their emotions.
After successfully becoming mindful of self-awareness, it can lead to being able to self-regulate better. People can’t regulate their emotions and actions if they’re not aware of what they’re feeling or thinking. Self-regulating is to control yourself from losing control of your feelings in situations and take control of anxiety and stress and take accountability for your actions. When I learned to self-regulate in D.B.T, I first had to learn to validate those feelings. I had to acknowledge that I was feeling them along with why I was feeling them. “If you do decide to express your feeling, you can be most clear by making sure that both you and your partner understand that your feeling is centered on a specific set of circumstances rather than being indicative of the whole relationship” (Alder, Proctor II 155). This quote is something I had to learn and take to heart. That a conversation should be about the problem at hand, it shouldn’t be done in an aggressive or vindictive way towards others to communicate your feelings about a situation without being in a competing conflict style. “The fallacy of causation also operates when we believe that others cause our emotions” (Alder, Proctor II 168). We have to remember that we control and regulate our emotions. Others have no responsibility for our emotions, just as no other person controls our everyday actions. That is why we need to regulate our emotions and take accountability for those emotions, mainly if they cause us to act out inappropriately.
When it comes to motivation skills, they refer to the motivation a person has based on how optimistic they are in their everyday lives. On my optimistic assessment, I’m moderately pessimistic and moderately hopeless. I will give up on everything if I feel I’ve completely failed in what it is I’m doing. It hinders me from completing and following through with tasks that need to be met. I completely agree with the assessment because I tend to give up on certain things if they become too complicated or don’t feel adequate to complete the task. I have struggled with my motivation and optimism throughout the years. I know I learned to be pessimistic about things in life because of how I was raised. My father is cynical about things, and my mother is optimistic about everything she does. My father said she couldn’t get the I.R.S. to forgive her for the $70,000 she owed to them and get it reduced to 1%. She surprised everyone by doing it and getting it approved. I know I should learn from her to think about the positives and be more optimistic about things in life. I know I struggle with feeling optimistic about my everyday life, especially having B.P.D. This is one area I can improve upon.
To lack, empathy is to be emotionally tone-deaf to those around you. I have struggled with how to communicate with people empathetically. When I see people upset, I have no idea what to say or talk to them. I have no idea how to talk to people or even how to relate, especially if they’re looking to talk about something to relate to someone on a subject. I lack in my life experiences, and I haven’t done many things outside of the house. I have lived a very sheltered life when it comes to living emotionally. Growing up, I was always alone, and I didn’t have any friends until I was sixteen. So, I never learned how to talk or communicate empathetically with those around me. Being in my thirties, I’m just now learning how to communicate and recognize when it’s pertinent to be empathetic to those around me. I’ve had to learn that I shouldn’t confuse sympathy with empathy. That sympathy is I feel sorry for you, and empathy is I feel sad with you. I have to be aware of my thoughts and feelings when I’m talking to someone, and I have to make sure I’m empathetic and not sympathetic. I know this is one area of my emotional intelligence that I lack because I was always alone growing up. I never learned the fundamentals that I needed to be empathetic to those around me. I know that’s why most people find it difficult to talk to me, especially my husband because I lack empathy when communicating with him.
For that reason, I also lack in my social skills because I don’t understand how to be in social situations. This is the area I need to work on the most when it comes to my emotional intelligence. I’m very awkward talking to people around me, including my own family. I’ve never understood how to do what “normal” people call small talk. I struggle with just walking up to someone to ask where something is in a store due to extreme social anxiety. I’ve been trying to work on this one the most since I went into I.O.P. D.B.T. in 2018. For me learning to communicate in relationships, whether they’re work or personal relationships. They’ll shape me and how I’ll respond to them. I’ve always struggled with social skills, which is important for improving or creating relationships around me.
Emotional intelligence is fundamental in communication with those around us because it can help us better understand ourselves and the people we’re communicating with. Having self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills are to have a keen understanding of communicating with those around you. From this, I’ve learned that I need to better learn to improve a great deal on all five skills. There are the ones that I want to improve on more than others, but they’re all equally important. Emotional intelligence is something I wasn’t aware of before this, and I’m glad I know of it now because I can now improve upon the areas that I struggle in.
Score Interpretation
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15-34
You need to work on your emotional intelligence. You may find that you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, especially in stressful situations; or, you may avoid conflict because you think that you’ll find it distressing. It’s likely, too, that you find it hard to calm down after you’ve felt upset, and you may struggle to build strong working relationships. Don’t worry – there are plenty of ways that you can build emotional intelligence, starting now. Read our tips below to find out more.
35-55
Your emotional intelligence level is… OK. You probably have good relationships with some of your colleagues, but others may be more difficult to work with. The good news is that you have a great opportunity to improve your working relationships significantly. Read more below to boost your EI still further.
56-75
Great! You’re an emotionally intelligent person. You have great relationships, and you probably find that people approach you for advice. However, when so many people admire your people skills, it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs. Read our tips below to find out how you can continue to build your EI. Researchers have found that emotionally intelligent people often have great leadership potential. Realize this potential by seeking opportunities to improve even further.
Characteristics of Emotional Intelligence
Psychologist Daniel Goleman identified five elements that make up emotional intelligence. These are:
Self-awareness.
Self-regulation.
Motivation.
Empathy.
Social skills.
Terms reproduced by permission of Bloomsbury Press.
Let’s look at how you can develop good skills in each area.
To increase self-awareness , learn about mindfulness . This involves focusing on the present moment – including how you’re feeling. And keep a journal in which you write about and analyze the emotional situations you experience from day to day.
You also need to understand your strengths and weaknesses to build self-awareness. Do a personal SWOT analysis , and ask for feedback from your boss, friends, and trusted colleagues to find out how you can improve further.
Self-Regulation
(Questions 2, 4, 7)
Your score is 6 out of 15
Self-regulation is about staying in control. To develop your skills in this area, learn how to manage your emotions effectively.
If you often get angry , note what triggers this feeling, and think about why this happens. Use techniques such as deep breathing to calm yourself down, and give yourself time to pause before you respond to emails or requests, so that you don’t say something that you’ll later regret. (See our article on anger management to learn more about this.)
You may also be affected by other negative feelings and emotions, such as anxiety and stress . So, do what you can to manage these feelings effectively.
Accountability is another important element of self-regulation. Take responsibility for your actions and behaviors, and make sure that these align with your values .
Motivation
(Questions 6, 10, 12)
Your score is 7 out of 15
Self-motivation is strongly affected by your emotions. When you’re distracted by your emotions, you may find it hard to see tasks through.
Also, set yourself longer-term goals . When you decide what you want to achieve, you’ll focus on what really matters to you. This can be highly motivating, especially when you connect personal goals with career-related ones.
If you’re still struggling to get motivated in your current role, take some time to rediscover your purpose .
Empathy
(Questions 3, 13, 15)
Your score is 10 out of 15
Empathy is the ability to recognize other people’s emotions and understand their perspectives. Goleman calls this aspect of EI “the fundamental people skill.”
To develop empathy , start by simply thinking about other people’s viewpoints. Imagine how they may be feeling, and use active listening skills to understand them fully when they express their emotions to you.
Try not to interrupt or talk about your own feelings during the conversation. Look at their body language , too: it can tell you a lot about their emotions. If you watch and listen to others, you’ll quickly become attuned to how they feel. (The Perceptual Positions technique can give you a particularly sharp insight into what other people may be thinking and feeling.)
Tip:
If you’re a leader, read our article “What’s Empathy Got to do With it?” for tips on using empathy in leadership.
Social Skills
(Questions 5, 9, 14)
Your score is 7 out of 15
Even if you’re not a natural “people person,” it is possible to develop better social skills.
Start by taking our quiz to see which communication skills you need to improve on. Then, find out how you can develop trust and rapport with people – this is an essential part of building good working relationships .
Don’t shy away from negative situations, either. Learn how to deal with conflict and other difficult situations effectively.
If you’re uncomfortable with social situations, work on building self-confidence . Start slowly, but then look for opportunities to practice your skills with bigger groups. For example, you could offer to attend conferences on behalf of your team.
Key Points
Developing high emotional intelligence (or EI) is incredibly important for a successful career. When we have high levels of emotional intelligence, we’re able to build strong working relationships and manage difficult situations more effectively.
Influential psychologist Daniel Goleman developed a framework of five elements that define emotional intelligence:
Self-awareness.
Self-regulation.
Motivation.
Empathy.
Social skills.
Even if you already have many of the elements of emotional intelligence, it’s important to look for opportunities to build it further. This will increase your leadership potential, and improve the quality of your relationships.
Optimism Test
Here are your scores on the Optimism Test. The following two sections will explain the two basic dimensions of optimism. There are two crucial dimensions to your explanatory style: permanence and pervasiveness.
Certain scores cause the percentile graph to display incorrectly; we apologize if this happens and please ignore this.
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18
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17
People who believe good events have a permanent cause are more optimistic than those who believe they have temporary causes.
If your score is 7 or 8, you are very optimistic about the likelihood of good events continuing; 6, moderately optimistic; 4 or 5, average; 3, moderately pessimistic; and 0, 1, or 2, very pessimistic.
Oct 07, 2020
Score Range : 0 to 8
Permanence-Bad Events : 3
Permanence-Bad Events Score (You scored as high as or higher than…)%Sc…Web UsersGenderAge GroupOccupationGroupEducationLevelZip Code020406080100
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54
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55
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52
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People who give up easily believe the causes of the bad events that happen to them are permanent—the bad events will persist, are always going to be there to affect their lives. People who resist helplessness believe the causes of bad events are temporary.
If your score is 0-1, you are very optimistic on this dimension; 2 or 3, moderately optimistic; 4 average, 5 or 6 quite pessimistic; and if you got a 7 or 8 you are very pessimistic.
Oct 07, 2020
Score Range : 0 to 8
Pervasiveness-Bad Events : 4
Pervasiveness-Bad Events Score (You scored as high as or higher than…)%Sc…Web UsersGenderAge GroupOccupationGroupEducationLevelZip Code020406080100
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63
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64
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58
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People who make universal (pessimistic) explanations for their failures give up on everything when a failure strikes in one area. People who make specific (optimistic) explanations may become helpless in that one part of their lives, yet march stalwartly on in others.
If your score is 0-1, you are very optimistic on this dimension; 2 or 3, moderately so; 4 average, 5 or 6 quite pessimistic; and if you got a 7 or 8 very pessimistic
Oct 07, 2020
Score Range : 0 to 8
Pervasiveness-Good Events : 4
Pervasiveness-Good Events Score (You scored as high as or higher than…)%Sc…Web UsersGenderAge GroupOccupationGroupEducationLevelZip Code020406080100
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46
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45
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47
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45
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44
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47
The optimist believes good events will enhance everything he does, while the pessimist believes good events are caused by specific factors.
If your score is 7 or 8, you are very optimistic; 6, moderately optimistic; 4 or 5, average; 3, moderately pessimistic; and 0, 1, or 2, very pessimistic
Oct 07, 2020
Score Range : -16 to 16
Hopefulness : 0
Hopefulness Score (You scored as high as or higher than…)%Sc…Web UsersGenderAge GroupOccupationGroupEducationLevelZip Code020406080100
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26
Gender
26
Age Group
26
Occupation Group
29
Education Level
27
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26
Whether or not we have hope depends on the two dimensions of Permanence and Pervasiveness taken together. Finding permanent and universal causes of good events along with temporary and specific causes for misfortune is the art of hope finding permanent and universal causes for misfortune and temporary and specific causes of good events is the practice of despair.
If your score is 10 to 16, you are extraordinarily hopeful; 6 to 9, moderately hopeful; from 1 to 5, average, from minus 5 to 0, moderately hopeless; and below minus 5, severely hopeless.
